So, what do you do when you fall hard for that perfect human being, only to find out too late that he's the stuff that nightmares are made of, or she's the monster you prayed never to encounter? This gets compounded when their parents (mothers, especially) will just pretend to weep with you when you try talking to them of your marital woes, only to backbite you when you're out of site. Needless to say, you're too broke to leave this toxic situation, or you had kids with this monster and now a terrible situation is just that much worse because you're damned if you do and you're damned if you don't. Now, what do you do?
At this point, I should probably elaborate that by selfishness, I mean putting their needs before you each time, and not paying much regard to you and what you want/need. A selfish partner acts as though they are alone in the relationship and cut you out of decisions and you are basically two individuals who should be close but are living as acquaintances.
This is not by any means a fool-proof therapy/advice post, but the straws that I had to grab at not to drown in the noxious fumes that were my relationship with a very selfish individual in my college days. I hope you do get a way to reach some dry land fast, before you lose yourself forever. Read on, and do not hesitate to leave a comment on what you think could help, if I haven't mentioned it. Here are the eight things to do when your boyfriend or girlfriend is a selfish piece of work....
1-Talk with them and let them know how you feel. As with everything else in a relationship, communication should always be the first resort. While you probably learnt or were taught how to act right early in life, some unfortunate individuals do not have the same luck. They may not have had anyone to show them how they should be, or they may actually innocently be obnoxious and immature from not being in an intimate relationship before. Before you throw in the towel and leave, sit them down and talk deeply with them, letting them know that it's making the relationship unbearable when they are like that, and if they do agree that they see the problem and decode to change, be sure to teach them how to be, and be patient with them while they learn. Chances are that their family and friends will also notice the improvement, and who does not want to be seen as a worthwhile addition to somebodies' life by their close ones?
2-Always try to look your best. So this may seem very materialistic and pointlessly vain, but looking good has actually been linked to feeling better so you should not let a bad relationship stifle your fashion sense. Wear nice clothes that fit well, apply some make up of you want to, and use some perfume to lift your spirits. Understand that your main purpose in life was not to be loved or to love this person you ended up with: any relationship takes two to tangle so if they value it they should pick up their slack and keep up with your efforts, otherwise, it is up to them if they want to fall by the wayside and try to manipulate some feelings out of you.
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