A HANDY GUIDE ON WHAT TO DO IF YOU DECIDE TO STAY DESPITE YOUR PARTNER CHEATING

Hello loves!! It' been a while, but June is here, and it feels like winter has officially arrived around these parts and like an ancient injury, heartache often rises again sooner or later; the ache is dull but still there nonetheless so I've decided to write down a handy guide of how to live with your significant other, if you decide to stay through their philandering, for whatever crazy reason haha... read on!

Before you set sail on this difficult journey of forgiving a cheating partner, consider these five things:

1-Is it the first occurrence of infidelity? Has your partner cheated before, and what happened after that? Were there any repercussions and did you work through it? Was it with the same person or a different one? Answering all these will help you know whether your forgiveness is any good, or if you're in a sinking ship and whether or not you will choose to sink with it. Someone who cheats once has a higher chance of not cheating again than a repeat offender and also if it is with one single individual that they cheat severally with, or over a long period despite your protests, it may be a sign that they are deeply involved in feelings with the other person.

2-Did they volunteer the information or did you discover on your own? Sometimes, a partner will confess their cheating because, well, a guilty conscience needs no accuser, and while guilt is a sign that they regret their action it may not be a sure tell that they won't repeat it again. A cheat who is nonchalant about the affair will more often than not endure the bad looks and nasty words that they may receive, only to do it again because they're probably a sociopath haha... for real, though....

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So now that we've gotten that out of the way, here are eleven things that you need to do in order to give your relationship the best fighting chance, but as with all fights in the universe, be sure you know when to quit, it just might save your sanity or even life....

1-Try to forget. As much as this is honestly impossible, it may help you achieve some peace of mind. As much as you can never completely forget the emotions you went through when you got cheated on, do yourself a favor and avoid having a total recall by not obsessing over the event. Do talk it out and take as long as you need to until life feels normal again, so you can both continue as happily as possible ahead, or if you do leave, at least leave it behind and don't drag the unnecessary baggage around.

2-Work on rebuilding the lost trust. This is heavy lifting, because no matter what grand promises someone may make, they are always who they are and I personally believe a cheat is a cheat, but I am sure that people are different, and so just because I had a particular experience with a serial cheat it does not mean that everyone else out there is the same and will act like that. While my cheat lied several times that it would not occur again- yet repeated the act and feigned remorse, it is not necessarily true for everyone. If they seem willing to go down this path with you, then by all means take the leap of faith, and bring the big guns as it won't be a walk in the park; but with their cooperation things may work out well in the end. Have them know that it feels better to know their locations most of the times, and the company you are with, if at all this will ease your mind, and other such things to help salvage your faith in them. If they do not cooperate however, you can assume that it is because they are up to some more nonsense, or they feel that this is too much work to do for you, whichever the case, save yourself more regret and find the door...

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